Use “DEAR MAN” Approach

Use “DEAR MAN” Approach:

Describe situation

ex: We’ve been arguing a lot lately.


Express feelings

ex: Arguing upsets me.


Assert your desires

ex: I’d like to find a solution.


Reinforce: what’s in it for them

ex: If we can do this, I’d be less grouchy.


Mindfulness: don’t get sidetracked.


Appear confident.



ex: say what you can help do for them if

they help fix this issue with you.